How To Stop Pulling Out Your Eyelashes

How to stop pulling out eyelashes

During class one day looking around the room bored out of my mind.

I looked up and noticed my top eyelashes were latching on to the bottom ones. 

Getting pretty annoyed I begin rubbing them to try and detach them. I tried stretching, curling and even scratching them to get them the way I wanted. 

Then it happened... I held on to that eyelash that was giving me problems... and yanked it out.

I felt a jolting pain, but not as bad as I thought. I felt relief knowing that something that was bothering could go away by removing the problem.

I didn't pull my eyelashes again for a while after that, The thought of the pain really discouraged me from doing it again.

I have bad allergies, so my eyes tend to become very dry and itchy especially during the spring. I wake up sometimes to find my eyelashes stuck to each other.

Another boring day at school, but this time with allergies. They would itch, stick to each other, or even fold down and touch the surface of my eye. I couldn't take it anymore, so... I just yanked it out!

But not just that one, I decided to yank out the others. I pulled and pulled, and to my surprise... I didn't even think about the pain it was causing me.

I began seeing bald patches on my eyelashes, which made me start becoming conscious of what people thought so I would hide them the best way I could. I thought of anyone finding out about my situation scared me more than anything. 

I was very anti-social, I sat in the back of the classroom, didn't participate in group assignments, never let people get too close to me, and avoided attention. Even knowing that, I would still continue to pull out my eyelashes.

I started to hate myself, not having a girlfriend, or going out to parties. I was even asked out a couple times, but turned them down because I was so conscious of them knowing about my problem. 

I knew I had to grow them back.

I started doing research on what I was going through to find that my problem had a name, Trichotillomania: Which is a compulsive desire to pull out one's hair. 

Knowing this I decided to read up as much information I could to fix the problem. I experimented with  a few different solutions and read up on others having the same problem as me. With enough will power and understanding I was able to grow my eyelashes past a length I'd never gotten before, But it did not stop me from pulling them right back out. 

Here is the problem...

Hair pulling of any sort can be linked to the same compulsive action as nail biting. 

The moment you decided that a problem can be solved by simply pulling out your hair (or in my case, eyelashes). You program your unconscious mind to react in a compulsive matter.

This is why it is so hard to stop. Your unconscious mind has decided that any stress can be relieved short term by simply pulling out your hair.  This is the same analogy as an itch, your brain unconsciously solves the issue with a compulsive action to scratch it. Most people even scratch while they are asleep.

Depending on how long you have been dealing with trichotillomania, it can be next to near impossible to resolve with traditional remedies. 

There is a solution... Hypnosis

Since the issue is on an unconscious level, Hypnosis has the ability to re-tune your mind to not associate stress with hair pulling, but to redirect the stress into something less harmful. 

The problem is that Trichotillomania is not a common problem, so there aren't millions of websites giving you the solution. After months of research I finally stumbled upon a track that I knew might solve my problem.

I would listen to this mp3 track on my Ipod before I go to sleep for days. I started to notice that my urge to pull my eyelashes were a lot less, and eventually I just stopped all together. Within 5 to 6 weeks... They were back!

I finally gotten my confidence back! I would volunteer to go places, I could talk to people and make eye contact, I would even sit down with a group of people. Life was normal!

I felt that I had fixed my problem, so I stop listening to the hypnosis tapes for months. Everything was still normal until stress had came back into my life hard. Eventually without noticing it I was back to pulling out my eyelashes. Only this time I was able to stop myself before it got worse, and I knew exactly what to do.

I remembered what the hypnosis tape taught me, I gathered all of my research, and I put them together...

Here's 20 of the things I did to grow them back, and keep them!

Stop Pulling Eyelashes

1. Clip your fingernails whenever possible..

Steps to stop pulling out hair
  I find that doing this helps you remember not to pull them

2. Don't try and remove the thought of pulling out your hair or eyelashes

  The unconscious mind is very powerful. Removing the thought won't work since the mind will just do it anyway without you thinking about it. 

3. Continue Being Confident

Stop Trichotillomania

  You should never think that having your hair back makes you confident. Working on building your confidence can make a great change in your life

4. Whenever you're alone and bored, think about somebody always watching you...

  Many people do not pull their hair when others are watching (I never did)

5. Don't place your hand close to your face when bored

  This makes you tempted to pull. 

6. If you are stressed, Sometimes absolutely nothing works to stop out pulling your hair! Here's what you do: 

When you're not doing anything, trap your hands under your legs or in your pockets to prevent you from pulling your hair.

7. Remember... It can take 5 to 6 weeks for your eyelashes to grow back (not sure about hair?).

 Thinking that it will take forever to grow your hair back will tempt you to start pulling again, so always tell yourself that "It's not going to be long".

8. Find a new habit with your fingers

Stress may cause Trichotillomania

  I find that doing different things help substitute for pulling out your hair, For example:

  - Brushing your hair
  - Playing with a stress ball
  - Taking deep breaths when stressed
  - Making a beat with your hands
  or anything you can think of ...

9. Sometimes talking with others about works...

  Letting people know of your problem could help in your journey to solving the issue. Don't be afraid to let others in. They are there for you 

10. Breathe!

 Breathing relieves stress. If you are stressed you are more likely to pull out your eyelashes.

11. Think of your goals for when your hair grows back...

  Maybe you want to start dating or to be more social. Whatever it is keep that in mind.

12. Exercise!  

Relieve the urge to pull out your hair

"Less stress pull less"

Exercising can be another form of dealing with stress that doesn't involve you pulling out your hair.

13. Get out of the house

  Hair pulling can be linked to you being indoors all the time. So get out and do something productive, take extra shifts at work or just take long walks. 

14. Add lotion to hands, and coat your hair with petroleum jelly.

15. Drink more Water

  Dehydration can actually cause hair loss. Crazy stuff!

16. Never get to a boring point

  Always try to find something to do so you won't be tempted to start the habit

17. Find another source of relief.

Sometimes I find that when I have an itch near my eyes I tend to pull my eyelashes I guess to justify the itch. Here's what you do...

*With the backside middle part of your index finger, gently stroke the part of your eyes that have the itch. This will give relief to the itch and also give you a nice sensation while doing it. This will tell your brain that pulling out the problem is not the way to rid the itch. (This can also work for hair-pullers as well)


18. Fight the temptation!

  Practice stopping yourself from pulling by feeling the temptation and keeping your hands still for long periods of time without touching your hair. 

When you think of hypnosis, Don't think of the old pocket watch, count to three and snap fingers trick. This type of hypnosis just relaxes you clears your mind, which they then will give you simple harmless suggestions. 

  This site Uncommon knowledge has a great mp3 track on hair pulling. I believe this track is the reason I stopped pulling my eyelashes.  

Stop Hair Pulling will gently re-educate your unconscious mind that compulsive hair pulling is no longer a desired behavior. And so, that hand will stay where it is, instead of creeping up to that hair when you're not looking.

20. Think of other ways you can stop pulling your hair

  I'm giving tips on how to stop, but that doesn't mean there isn't more. 

Comment on this blog, How did you stop yourself from pulling out your hair?


  1. I found this very helpful. Just in the last month I've had "episodes" which messed up both eyebrows, then once again the left one, the last night I targeted my lashes. Luckily the good brow is with the bad eye and the 'better' eye is with the bad eyebrow. I found that putting on that L'oreal eyelash serum on my eyebrows speeded up the growing process from 6wks to roughly 4wks. It sucks cause I take a speech class and also work with groups for other classes so I feel like I can't escape being in close proximity with people. This helps encourage me to be strong and keep from pulling.
    Also could you post the link for the hypnosis?

    1. I've recently started using the eyelash serum and I didn't think it worked well because I still pull out my eyelashes and I stopped then started again even tho I have been using the serum so I'm optimistic I can stop pulling with the help of this post and the whole article itself. Thank you

  2. here is link if you scroll down a bit

  3. Thank you for the great share.I’m sure lots of people will benefit to this share.Please keep me updated of any new information that you will have.Will definitely share this to my friends for them to be aware also.Thanks and good luck.

  4. I really needed this! Thank you!!

  5. My Eyelashes are back completely. I'm glad this blog benefitted you guys.

  6. You can also try this for help with other problems you may feel need to be fixed.

  7. i never knew there were so many websites and people out there with this condition! i thought i was the only one, i have been pulling out my eyelashes and eyebrows since i was 5 and im now 26, i never knew there was any help available for this, i found your blog very helpful and im definatly going to try the ideas you've given, thank you, today is my first step to no pulling!!!!!!!!!!

    1. This comment makes me feel so much better. Im eleven and ive been dealing with it for three years. It makes it better to know im not the only one and that it seems they will keep coming. Hopefully

    2. It makes me feel better too. I am a seventh grader, and I am 13. I have been dealing with this since I was 11/12. It has not been a huge problem until this school year. The stress is brutal. People have noticed a "hole in my eyebrow" and I freak out when they say that. But they are talking about something i was born with. No one has noticed the eyelash problems, but if I continue they won't grow back and someone will. Thank you for this post it will help me survive 7th and soon 8th grade social life.

  8. ive been like this for most of my life (i started at about 4-5 and im now 18), i didnt know until very recently that other people also suffered from this...its made me so self conscious...i cant stand people looking at my eyes/eyebrows and other people putting on make up on me is an absolute night mare! ill definitely be downloading these hypnosis tracks! today marks a new beginning!

  9. This is the most helpful blog I have ever read! thank you soooo much!

  10. Hi Guys
    If ever anyone was in doubt about this then know this i first pulled out my eye lashes when i was 14 with a nail cutter.They did take long to grow but the damage was terrible.I was constantly haunted by how my eyes looked and grew desperate trying to regrow the eye lashes.
    In chemistry class i tried silver Nitrate in small bits with no apparent results.
    At 29 my eyelashes started to regrow and have been growing since then.
    I still have the addiction to pull out eyelashes but try to avoid the idea.
    I find that times when am alone and stressed are those that trigger this urge.
    I have used olive oil hair spray and find that whenever ido hair grow fast.

  11. I started pulling my eyelashes when I was 12 yrs old, and I'm going to be 50 this year! I have tried many times throughout the years to stop by going to counseling, reading trich material, posting photos of pretty eyes on my fridge, keeping my hands busy, etc. Everytime I got stressed, driving alone in the car, or talking on the phone, I began to pull. Finally, SIX MONTHS AGO, I STOPPED! I am in counseling and taking anti-depressants which is helping immensely. It is a disease and you need help stopping. I don't have many lashes at this point in time, but I'm praying and hoping they will still grow back. I'm also journaling during difficult times. I finally decided that I was tired of avoiding eye contact with people, having a low self-esteem, and not being able to wear mascara. Please seek professional help, because you're not alone!

  12. Get the Trich Stop System- seriously. I suffered from this for over 30 years, but have been pull free now for about 2 years. I found the Trich Stop System online (there is a site, but you can find it on Amazon too i think) and there was this oil in the kit that was magic. It helped soothe my urges and made me rub instead of pull. I also got the manual that had a lot of good advice and ideas too. In any case, get a plan and some help in place as soon as possible. you can't do it alone, but you can stop! Good luck!

  13. WOW! I thought I was alone with this problem, and a large problem it is for me.
    I started as a child, afraid that a loose lash would get in my eye. I haven't had a lash in my eye for 40 years now. I agree if a body could keep the fingers busy it would prevent some of this action, however for me a second is all it takes. Tho it doesn't make a sound I somehow sense the sound as I pull it out, the ones with large roots feel the best coming out then I have to rub them on my lips. This causes a great deal of problems for me. My eyes are always red and weak looking dust and wind ect.make my eyes worse. I'm often late to work and sometimes I have to pull off the road to tweeze a brow hair. I've tried glue on lashes (I thought would work because I was a nail biter until gel nails) however it was worse because I'd pull on the long fake ones that would be attached to a group of my short ones, which would come out in the entire grouping which then I found I enjoyed many out at once. So anyhow that lead to nose hair pulling which is opening a new set of problems such as sores inside my nose, hurting and breathing problems. I have never wrote on one of these things before, but I just wanted to tell anyone that may not be bad with it...yet.. STOP NOW! I don't think anything will help other than making a firm decision to not do it. Remember you are too Pretty and Smart to let this happen to you. Dr. tells me
    some people pick their teeth, some bite their nails, and you pull your lashes. I have tried anti-depressants , and nerve medications but they make me so sleepy that I just can not function. I am an outgoing person and I work with the public and well liked. I've just deal with it and joke about it with anyone who asks. The only good thing about this is I'm sure people leave me feeling a little better about themselves and thinking, "thank you God that I don't do that" :)

  14. I am a girl..all my eyelashes are gone . I feel very embarrassed because friemds wear mascara and I cant. I look like a man. & I don't know how to mom that I have this. I know I do . Itsss soooo addictimg . I HATE IT. this is gonna help a lot . Thankss !

  15. I've had this since I was 8 and I'm now 16. My life's now on a huge point, leaving school, getting a job, etc and I really can't think of going through the rest of my life without eyelashes. Especially now that I've realized I've begun pulling my hair out (on my head. I've never done that before, I've always only pulled out my eyelashes) during exams.
    I really needed this and it sounds like it will help a lot. I hope it does. Thank you.

  16. Here's the exact link to the hypnosis download I use

  17. This helped alot! i have trich. My eyelahses are still mostly gone, though. i have manged to grow so back though. So other things i find help are
    making goals
    telling your friends
    Telling your friends does help.
    I also am in theropy, but that can be expensive.
    There are alot of great things to do on your own though
    A great website for this is

    I keep a blog for mine too

    My other blog is

  18. I find reading really helpful. It's good to get other perspectives and ideas. I especially liked 'How to Stop Pulling Out Your Hair' that I found on Amazon. It's helped a bunch.

  19. Are there any hypnosis links that are free to use?

  20. I used to pull my lashes but now I pull my eyebrows, I just can't stop!! This will help tho :)

  21. thank you so much, 5-6 weeks fighting!!

  22. Thank you so fucking much! Oh my god! ♡♡♡

  23. This super helped me. Telling other people can make you nervous enough that you don't want to do it again.

  24. Hey what a brilliant post I have come across and believe me I have been searching out for this similar kind of post for past a week and hardly came across this. Thank you very much and will look for more postings from you.
    high definition brows

  25. I never thought there were others that pull out their eyelashes, and I wasn't expecting this action has a name!

    I've been doing this for a little over 20 years now. I remember the first time I did pull out my eyelashes, I was about 10 YO. My eyes was itching and when I scratched it I've seen 1 eyelash on my finger. don't ask why, but I tried to 'super gently' pull some more, and been amazed by the fact that a couple just went out that easily.. So it continued until no one was pulling out. After that, when I was stressed and stuff I was literally taking em off by force.

    I'm very discret about it and very careful to make sure it's not very noticeable. But I often get some blank spot on my eyelash..
    I'll try some of your great tips.

    And this message is the first time i openly talk about it.

  26. I CANT PULL OUT MY EYELASHES ANYMORE NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY , YOU LUCKY PEOPLE CAN I AM JEALOUS USED TO PULL OUT 5 A DAY but now look at me i pulled out a 100 and people still think my eyelashes are long for some reason the pain

  27. my eyelashes are easily falling and got on my eyes